“And now I pronounce you husband and wife” and from that moment we expect to life happily ever after, because that’s what we aim for. We read it in so many fairy tales when we were young. But then wait a minute, they never get married, the story always ends with a gentle kiss and a long embrace.
I married young, married the love of my life, my knight in shinning armor and we live happily ever since. Let’s be honest, he is not that perfect, neither am I, but somehow we are perfect together, as a couple.
“The happy couple”, “the happily ever after”…is it a gift? A blessing? Something we get for free? No, it’s not. I hate to burst your bubble, but relationships, friendships and marriages are actually work. You have to make them work, have to want to work on it and for it..but not all of them are worth it.
Some relationships and marriages don’t work out, some friendships end and we wonder what happened.
“Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.”
No matter how happy we are with our partner, we all should be able to be happy on our own as well. Happiness is within, it’s a stage of mind. It’s the way we travel and not a destination.
Plato wrote, we all had been hermaphrodites once, before we were separated into two different genders, that we roam the Earth in search of our other halves ever since. Somehow the most of us believe in it and we start the search for the “perfect one”, the one that will make us happy, because only then will we live happily ever after.
I believed it too when I was young, wanted my happily ever after. I found my Prince Charming and I am one of the lucky ones, so it seems. There have been tears, there has been sadness that we had to overcome. There is no sunshine without rain is there?
There are a few things that are mandatory to be happy. I call it the art of living.
An old religious text from 1855 states:
All life is a journey, not a home; it is a road, not the country; and those transient enjoyments which you have in this life, lawful in their way,—those incidental and evanescent pleasures which you may sip,—are not home; they are little inns only upon the road-side of life, where you are refreshed for a moment, that you may take again the pilgrim-staff and journey on.
I like the ideas with the little inns on the road-side of life. Meeting with friends, laughter, a good book or a long walk, every pleasant experience gives us a sip and leaves us refreshed.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Sail away from your safe harbor! Explore, dream, discover…magical and wise words, if you think about it.
Yes, Happiness is a journey and it doesn’t matter if you travel alone or with a companion. We all can live happily ever after, if we chose to do so. If we have the courage and faith to allow ourselves to be happy in the little moments, if we appreciate the small things, then we will come to find out what happily ever after really means.
“And they lived happily ever after.” Think about this line for a few minutes. Are you living happily ever after? If not, what will it take for you to get there?