Breast Cancer Awareness Month -Be creative~!

Breast Cancer

October is breast cancer awareness months and there is so much on my mind, that I would like to say. Breast cancer -or any other kind of cancer – is not just something that hits older folks; more and more young women and young men are diagnosed as well. Today I would like to express myself in writing.

Many of us are affected by breast cancer, either directly or indirect, when we watch mothers, daughters, sisters, wife’s and girlfriends fighting for their life’s. But not just women are affected- although it is much rarer – men are susceptible to breast cancer as well. The American Cancer Society estimates that around 2,350 new cases of breast cancer will be diagnosed in men in 2015, compared with 231,840 in women. An estimated 440 men will die of breast cancer this year.

Early detection is the key. There are many YouTube videos showing men and women how to do a self exam, there are even movies showing how to do a partner exam -what can be fun. Don’t think for a minute that you can’t be affected. Don’t think that you are too young, or feel safe because it doesn’t run in your family.

Before I write more about what’s on my mind, I would like you all to meet “Anncredible” and her incredible journey called “One year of breast cancer.”

I am sometimes surprised by the way some people react to cancer and I think that’s what always bothered me the most. So today –like it or not- I will write about it.

Here are my cancer guidelines and as always, please remember that this is only my point of view. I have a t-shirt saying “Heck, yes these are fake, the real ones tried to kill me,” and I watched my best friend die of breast cancer last year.

  • First of all, cancer is not contagious, neither does it define us. It is a disease that tries to kill us, but it can be beaten. Anything is possible and the right attitude is important. Not just the attitude of the one who is sick, but although the attitude of family and friends around them. Don’t pull back, be there~!
  • Join the fight and be there for your friend or family member. If you don’t have the time to join their entire journey, then show your support. Write cards with encouragement, send a text or leave a message. Make them laugh, don’t treat them any different.
  • Be there when they cry, join a pity party and share the anger, but make sure the pity party doesn’t go on for too long. Crying doesn’t help when you have to fight.
  • If you have long hair and you know your friend or your family member will lose her hair, cut your hair short and donate it to “Locks of Love”. Many women are in need of a wig and money is often tight. If don’t want to cut your hair, or if it’s not long enough for a donation, get a pink strand, either permanent or sprayed on, or just an extension. Buy funny hats and give your friend a bold-head party, bake a silly cake and keep her spirits up (funny hats are priceless).
  • There are many websites that offer headbands, turbans, wigs, shawl and other accessories…go there, buy one or two in the color you know they like. Believe me, it will be appreciated. Sick or not, most women still care about how they look like.
  • “I pray for you” is a very nice message, but it is a downer, especially for people who aren’t religious. Whenever I heard “I pray for you” I knew it was meant well, but it didn’t make me feel good. It felt like game over. If you believe that prayers will help, just do it, don’t mention it all the time.
  • Small surprises go a long way, cards, a recorded CD, a silly note or a stuffed animal. Be creative~!
  • If you are not really close to the person, don’t bring food by. If you want to do something, ask what they would like to have, before you stop by with your favorite thanksgiving casserole. Many women have families and keeping life normal is important to them. Instead of bringing by food, offer to cook for them and if you want, go and do the grocery shopping, offer to clean the house or walk the dog. Get involved~!
  • And last but not least, don’t say “I know how you feel,” because the truth is you don’t, we all have different circumstances and react differently. How about you ask instead “How do you feel?”. Listening is so important.
  • And as Marilyn said in her comments, don’t go missing afterwards.

I guess what I was trying to say, let them feel your love and don’t be scared~!

Links and recommendations:

Books that I would recommend are “Help me live” by Lori Hope and “The Etiquette of Illness” by Susan P. Halparn.

Susan D. Komen: More than 10,000 raced yesterday for the cure in Phoenix, AZ, there you can find events near by

Make a donations in the name of your family member or friend to the National Breast Cancer Foundation or to the Breast Cancer Research Foundation. There are  may others and the money is spend differently at each organisation, please research it well. 

Donate your hair to “Locks of Love.”

Headbands, Scarves, Turbans and much more at “curediva.”

Buy a pink t-shirt, that shows your support and wear pink proudly. Be creative~!

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19 thoughts on “Breast Cancer Awareness Month -Be creative~!

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  2. What a powerful video, and an important post. Many strides have been made in pinpointing certain cancers and then treating them accordingly, many lives saved as a result. There is a long way to go still as so many do succumb to the disease.

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  3. ladybug: this is one awesome post! I can’t relate to all the emotions of breast cancer, but I can relate to much about cancer. I am disease-free from leukemia and spent a total of 10 weeks in the hospital 2 years ago. Since then I’ve backpacked 156 miles of the 485-mile Colorado Trail and am back looking for work. Feeling quite normal. In fact, much of the experience feels like a dream.

    You make some very good points. Just being there is so important. There were times I felt so isolated. I had an awesome support group … I could text them and someone would show up. It really made those lonesome days much more bearable.

    The video is amazing. Although a photographer, I didn’t have the wherewithal to take photos of each step of the way. And my friends and family didn’t think it appropriate to take photos of me when I was at my worst. BTW, is that you? What a trooper!!

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  4. Just one more thing: Don’t donate to “breast cancer awareness” groups. They are scams. If you are going to give money, make sure it’s going to an organization which uses the money for actual research or uses it to help real people other than the organizers of the so-called “charity.” There are a lot of breast cancer scams out there. We are already sufficiently aware. Money is needed for research and to help women who don’t have resources survive treatment and recovery.

    Don’t just give money. Find out where the money is going. Susan Komen, for example, is a rip-off. The only people who benefit are the people who work for the foundation.

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    • I don’t like Susan D. Komen too much either, but I like the awareness it brings. I like the walks and races that brings hope to so many. I participated at 2 walks, the solidarity and the hope between so many women, was something I can’t explain.
      As for donation I would only give money to the National Breast Cancer Foundation.

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      • We have plenty of awareness. All they use the money for is to line their own pockets. We buy tee shirts, bags, all that stuff. They keep the profits and we are aware. Plenty aware. Meanwhile, there’s no money for research. Or to help poor women who actually HAVE breast cancer.

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        • Have you been at a breast cancer walk or a breast cancer race? Have you seen thousand of people gathered up supporting their loved ones who fight breast cancer. I didn’t want to got there either, but I have been asked to join a group of women and I did. it was something I will never forget.

          I like Susan D. Komen as much as you do. Look at the NFL, they are wearing pink, I don’t see them wearing purple or brown. It did bring lots of awareness and were ever I go right now, there is either a donation fund set up or someone is raising money for the cure.
          If it would be up to me, then I would ask people to donate locally, because you are right, there are many women who can’t afford being sick.

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  5. Excellent awareness you have brought within this post.. my sister had breast cancer aged 36, and had a mastectomy .. Her love of life and being a Mum of 4 young children saw her through.. And she is now 53, Happy, and Cancer Free… with a different perspective on LIFE and LIVING.. It can be life changing in so many ways

    Many thanks for sharing this post.. Love and Blessings Sue xx

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  6. This hits pretty close to home for me just now. My mom had colon cancer, so there’s always that worry for my sister, brother, and me. But mid-July I found a lump in my right breast. After a mammogram and an ultrasound, the doc thinks it’s actually a hematoma. I go back for a second ultrasound the first week of November. If it’s still there, they’ll do a biopsy. Trying not to stress about it has been hard at times since my body has been going through some really weird changes since September last year. But I’m learning patience. I know you’re not a religious gal, but as for me, I covet those prayers and often wonder how much harder this would be if I didn’t have them. The person’s beliefs are something, like you said, we have to be really sensitive to. How long a survivor, Bridget?

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    • I don’t consider myself a survivor, I consider myself a winner. I have a shirt saying “Cancer, you messed with the wrong bitch” :-). Try not to stress about it, but don’t be to relaxed about it either. Get done, what needs to be done. I don’t have anything against people’s believes, if praying help then by all mean do it. I just didn’t like hearing it, because it felt like I was not in control, like it wasn’t my fight anymore. What probably doesn’t make any sense to you.
      9 years~!

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