“I think I need to tell you that I am getting older,” he said, almost as he would ask for my permission.
“I noticed,” I looked at him and smiled.
“I just thought I needed to let you know.”
“I am glad you did and it’s fine with me. I am getting older too.”
“I haven’t noticed,” he said and it made me smile even more.
We were working outside and our conversation brought joy to my heart, it made me happy. Yes, I too had noticed that we are getting older and I am absolutely fine with it. The universe is fulfilling one of my wishes and I am grateful for it.
Aging with the one you love is simple, everyday magic. I look at his snow white hair and I think back at the time when he was only in his 30’s. One day he came home and proudly announced that his hair color was now salt and pepper. The pepper is long gone and it left my knight in shining armor with beautiful, white hair.
This stunning, beautiful man by my side hasn’t changed a bit with all the changes. Not to me anyway, he is still the man I fell in love with, so many years ago. The smile is the same and the sparkle in his eyes is there, where it’s always been.
All the years that we spent together and nothing has really changed between us. We still look at each other and know what the other one is thinking. We have perfectioned the craft to push each other’s buttons -if needed- and we can make each other laugh out loud.
I remember back then when we were young. I was watching them, when they were slowly walking down the street, gently holding each other’s hand. There was such a quiet peace about it and I wished for that myself. I wanted to walk just like the older couple in front of us. “Wouldn’t it be great, if we too would still be holding hands when we are older?” I wondered about that. Age seems to be so far away when you are young.
Now it’s 30 years later, and we still walk hand in hand and I love it. It’s not just a simple gesture, it’s a statement that we belong together.
I think the desire and the need to be held and touched never goes away, no matter how old we are.
Maybe younger couples will look at us now and we will make them smile. What a wonderful magic is at work when two people walk hand in hand.
Flourishing is not a solo endeavor.