OPEN and HONEST, these two words go hand in hand. You can not be honest without opening up, and you can’t be open without being honest. It’s not that easy, it takes some courage to be open and honest. You have to be prepared for destructive criticism.
I am always honest, I try to be, but it has its painful moments. It’s so hard to tell someone I don’t like what you do, or to fire somebody you actually care for.
I am not the most diplomatic person; I am exactly the way I am on my blog. Outspoken, somewhat intelligent, witty at times with a high tendency to sarcasm. I don’t like to hurt peoples feelings, but sometimes I have to and it’s hard.
I am having a truth-week this week, and it made me think about the scene in one of my favorite movies.
I close my eyes, and this image floats beside me.
A sweaty toothed mad man with a stare that pounds my brain.
His hands reach out and choke me, and all the time he’s mumbling.
Like a blanket that always leaves your feet cold.
You push it, stretch it, but it’ll never be enough.
You kick at it, beat it, it’ll never cover any of us.
From the moment we enter crying,
to the moment we leave dying,
it’ll just cover your face,
as you wail and cry and scream.”
Yesterday I fired my helper. I didn’t fire him -not with these words- but I told him that I don’t want to work him anymore. Telling him the reasons behind my decision, that was the tough part, because I really liked his work. I hope he will learn from his mistakes, I hope he will grow as a human being.
I finally told a blogger that I decided to unfollow her blog. Why pretend that I LIKE something, if I really don’t. I had felt disconnected for so long. It’s the second time I had done this in the blogging world, both times made me feel uncomfortable at first, but then I felt relieved.
It’s like ripping of a band-aid, it stings at first, but then you feel great.
“Just don’t follow them anymore!” Yes, that would be the easy way out and I assume that this too is common law these days. But why? OPEN and HONEST go hand in hand. How can people grow and learn, if we don’t share with them the motive behind our decisions? The blogger and I had been communicating through comments back and forth for months, just leaving without a word, that just didn’t sound right.
The truth is hard to take.
“The truth is heavy,
that’s why so few choose to carry it.”
OPEN and HONEST, that’s what I chose in my life. We can still be kind and caring, we can still be generous and loving while telling the truth. It is possible!