Reaching Out~!


“Where do you live and what do you like about your city?” was one of the questions I have been asked here on my blog, and my honest reply surprised me a little bit. “I live in Columbus, Ohio and I don’t like it here at all.”

Why don’t I like it here? It’s a beautiful place to live -even if you are the only liberal nutcase in about 50 miles. We have a lovely home, friendly neighbors, good jobs, and a decent income. What is there not to like?

I sat down and did some soul searching, had a few honest hours minutes with myself and that’s when I decided to change the situation.

After all these years, I will give this city a chance; I will go out and explore different neighborhoods and surrounding areas, and I will take pictures -even if they will be just a blurry mess because I forgot to wear my glasses (again). I treated the city like a one-night-stand, it’s time for a serious commitment now.

So far I have business related friendships, and I meet with neighbors -many of them happen to be much older.Β I want to meet people here; I can not possibly be the only nutcase living here. πŸ™‚

I miss female companionΒ here in this town. I miss my best friend; she passed on a couple of years ago, and I miss some of my good friends, who live too far away now.Β Alright, that was settled. I will go out and meet new people.

“Where do I go to meet women my age?” I wondered.

I did some research and found a website called I was in awe. There are numerous meetup groups out there for people all ages. Different groups for various interests, from cooking to hiking, from writing to photography – it looked promising. They are everywhere, Australia, USA, Canada. Why haven’t I heard of it before?

I found a woman’s club for ladies 60+; I found book clubs and dance clubs for younger women. Activity and sports groups, meetings for people with health problems and even a group for dog lovers. But…nothing for 50+ women. Bummer~!

Guess what I did? I got me a glass of wine (I confess it was a big one) and started my own meetup group. I wrote a profile, even posted a profile picture of me (what is a first). I named the group:

Fabulous Women 50+ Making New Friends

Then I wrote the introduction:

There comes a new found freedom with 50 and it is fabulous. More than ever do we know what we want, and who we are. We are not over the hill – we are standing on top of it and there is no going down (yet.) This group is here for the sole purpose of bringing women over 50 together, whether single or married, who want to make great friendships and enjoy fun events together . My goal is a fun, relaxed, and low-key way to do activities with other women in the similar age and time in life. You may still be working or retired. You may have children who are about to leave the nest or no kids but the four-legged types.

I want this to be a relaxed, low key and fun group to make friends and do activities together. It may be anything from wine tasting to book reading, from cookie parties to music. I would love to start a girl’s night out with women close to my age.

I am open to suggestions and would love to hear your ideas.

Let’s make new friends Ladies –what do you think?

Looking forward meeting you,

(PS. I am new to meetup and never joined or started a group, please be patient with me –I promise the same)

I waited impatiently. Nothing happened for two days…I was the only one who wanted to go out and have fun. I was crushed.

And then there came Football Sunday and some ladies signed up. First 10, then 20 and it went from there. Now we are a group of 78 ladies (so far), and I am tickled pink. I met with a few of them already, planned more activities, and we had a ball. Our first Girl’s night out will be in 2 weeks and I am looking forward to it.

This is going to be fun~!




56 thoughts on “Reaching Out~!

  1. Pingback: Reaching Out – Part II | The happy Quitter!

  2. I only been to Columbus once, shortly after moving to Muncie, Indiana, from the Pacific Northwest…yes culture shock to say the least…similar to when I moved from southern California to Idaho when I was in elementary school…I went to meet a friend who was visiting family in Columbus (and to watch the Buckeyes play the Wolverines of course)…he drove me around one day to see the city,,,the old industrial ambiance would make for some splendid photos, but i do have a soft spot for the dilapidated…i am sure that like Muncie, most of the liberal “nutcases” have learned how to blend in…early on after moving there, I thought I might follow someone with an Obama bumper sticker on their car to where ever they were going and crying out “will you be my friend.”

  3. This is great!! I was going to suggest you start you own group and was delighted to find you already did. Bravo! It is a little disappointing there aren’t more 50+ women’s Meetup groups.

  4. Congratulations Bridget on doing something about the situation!!! Good job! You are indeed very fabulous and kudos to you and the ladies on the group. Can’t wait to hear more about it

  5. You are clearly a shaker-and-mover. There’s no group to meet your needs? You start one! … and omg, what a response!! My very best wishes that this new group takes root and many new friendships are developed here. I would join your group in a heartbeat!

    I’m so happy to hear that you’ve decided to embrace your city. Sometimes when we can’t change our circumstances, we can only change our attitude ❀

      • I LOVE cookie parties. That’s just a genius invention.
        This way I bake only one kind and end up having a plate of mixed cookies that last until Christmas. πŸ™‚ Genius, just genius. !

      • I’ve never participated in a cookie exchange.
        My problem is that my family doesn’t *do* cookies. I’ve made cookies at Christmas, only to end up eating the vast majority of them because no one else does.
        I even tried making a fruitcake cookie for Gilles because he LOVES fruitcake. He wouldn’t eat them. Said it wasn’t the same.
        Sigh … just as well. I keep trying to convince myself that shortbread cookies are evil.

  6. That’s a great story. is a fabulous service. I discovered a local artisan community through it. Really happy for you your group took off. Sounds fun. Pity I’m on the other side of the great big blue!

      • πŸ™‚
        Think I should find a drummer’s meet up for mine, so he can stop torturing me!
        Just had a look at what is on this week nearby and I have a choice between a Korean dance performance, Advent calendar making and language practice conversations, although it’s unclear which languages.

  7. you are one fabulous 50+ woman my friend. (And what beautiful eyes you have too- love the photo!) Good for you to make it happen and look forward to hearing about the group adventures πŸ™‚

  8. I went to school in Columbus back in the early to mid 80s. At that time it seemed to be an up and coming little city, but I guess it stalled someplace in the last 30 years or so… These days I know Cleveland a lot better (I grew up and my parents live 40 miles west of that city, on the shore of The Lake).

    Creating your own group sounds like a great idea. It’s cool that (despite the slow beginning) so many people joined. There has to be at least a few in a group that size that you can relate to. I hope you have a great time and learn to enjoy Columbus!

    • We lived on the West coast and in the South for so many years, moving to Ohio was a culture shock. I felt like I was transferred back in time -and I assume I know what I mean.

      I miss cultural events, all you can do here is go to food festivals or a buckeye game. I miss art, opera, independent theater…stuff like that.

      I will be very open minded while exploring Columbus and I will bore you all senseless with pictures. πŸ™‚

      • Even as a kid back then I thought the Columbus art museum was sub par – Cleveland’s is about 100 times the size. As far as other cultural events, I lived on campus so saw plays, musicals (I didn’t do opera back then) plus all types of live bands (there were 4 different Reggae bands active in Columbus at the time, plus Rolling Stone chart topping punk bands, plus great blues, good jazz and OK techno pop (remember, this was the 80s)), classical concerts (usually small ensemble and solo,), etc.. So I didn’t miss what the city didn’t have. Cleveland, though, has a much bigger cultural life. Not quite Boston level, but still good for the mid-west.

  9. LOVE IT. Good for you, Briget, for making this happen! Sometimes what we want is just around the corner and all we need to do is take the step. I also like that you’re giving your state/city a chance. There are wonderful nutcases everywhere. πŸ™‚

  10. Good for you! How long have you lived in Columbus? I’m 57, and it’s hard to meet like minded gals such as myself. I too am a liberal living in a very conservative county west of Milwaukee. Good luck with your group!

  11. That’s wonderful to have found some like-minded people to get together for fun activities together. Is the Lucy/Ethel photo above of them rehearsing their song ‘Friendship’? I love all all the Lucy shows! πŸ™‚

    • Lucy makes me feel good, watching her stomping down the grapes gets me each and ever time.

      As for the picture, I have no idea where it comes from. I chose it for the background photo on my meetup page.

      • Me, too! No matter how many times I’ve seen Lucy, I get to laughing at her and Ethel’s antics. πŸ™‚ … wishing you a wonderful week ahead!

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