Don’t Pray For The Chicken

The other night I went through my newsfeed and came across a message that stood out. “I had fried chicken tonight, my favorite food. I feel bad about it. Please pray for me.”

I have read similar requests and most of the time I quietly move on. I am not an expert, but my gut feeling tells me God might have his (or her) plate full already.

I found the prayer request very confusing. To me, it’s not clear what I am supposed to pray for. Less fried chicken and more discipline, or perhaps the prayer is meant to ask for forgiveness because after all, isn’t it a contradiction to feel guilty after consuming the very food the good man (or woman) upstairs has provided so generously?

Bad, bad fried chicken! How dare you taste so good?

While I don’t understand the prayer request -it really puzzles me- I do understand the guilt feeling all too well, it has been my specialty for many years. Hardly a day went by when I didn’t feel remorse about my meals. Either I had -again- eaten too much, or my food choices had been highly questionable.

If you want to be healthier, live healthier, it’s not that complicated. Why couldn’t I wrap my head around it?

I bet I even felt guilty when I didn’t do anything wrong, just because I was so used to feeling guilty. I questioned everything about my food selections. In my mind, there was ONLY good and bad food and nothing in between. 

Guilt takes the fun out of everything, including eating, and like any other bad feeling, it will bring you down. It brought me down for years and the scale went up and down, and up and down again. Stuck like a hamster in a wheel, running in circles, chasing my own tail.

Yes, fried chicken might not be the healthiest meal choice, but if you love it so much, then enjoy it once in a while and be thankful and remember, we all are very lucky, a lot of people on this beautiful planet would love to chew on the bones we throw away. 

Why not turn it into something good?

Fry enough chicken to share it with the ones in need, or eat only half of what you had planned and have a healthy salad with the leftover meat the next day for lunch, to balance the scale -considering you don’t drown the leafy greens in heavy dressing.

Is fried chicken or any other food that leaves us feeling guilty really something so evil that it needs the help of prayers? Or is it us who need help?

Most people destroy their self-esteem through self-derogatory thoughts. They suffer feeling worthless or believe they are not good enough. Our self-esteem is the basis for self-confidence. If you’re like most people, then you’re constantly hearing someone talking to you. The words are harsh, nagging, hurtful, humiliating, and anything but compassionate. It’s us talking in our minds. The voice is in your head and you cannot escape it.

As long as you don’t sleep, this negative voice won’t sleep either. Our inner critic at its best.

You can overcome feelings of worthlessness and never-ending guilt by exposing the critic’s words as lies and strengthening your self-worth through uplifting, understanding, and compassionate words. Self-love and kindness toward yourself will silence the nagging voice in your head.

Love the chicken!

There is nothing wrong with the fried chicken. It’s the food we love and grew up with and, considering you don’t have any health issues, eating it in moderation is fine and we should enjoy it the way it was originally meant to be eaten.

Eat, nurture yourself and enjoy every bite and be grateful! So often it is cooked with love, eat it with love!

16 thoughts on “Don’t Pray For The Chicken

  1. I’m sure this thought is NOT related to what your neighbor had said to you as a child. I mean, how could it be? It is, nonetheless, an interesting juxtaposition for me.

    And, dear Bridget, I think both of us are getting wiser with age. Here’s a post I just published where I am learning a similar attitude change.

    Excuses, Excuses

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  2. Somehow throughout my life I also managed to assign labels to food as either “good” or “bad,” and the negativity really worked against me. In my late teens I developed an eating disorder, that thankfully didn’t last too long. But the “guilt” feelings remained for decades. It took a long time to discover that the food wasn’t the problem. Now when I have a craving I typically give in to it, but recognize it for what it is–a treat. It’s surely a complicated thing for most people. And for all of the angst associated with diet and nutrition, the standard American diet is pretty poor! Your thoughts were very well put forward, Bridget

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    • “The good and the bad” how we all fall for it, so much is dictated by magazines or newsfeeds. Food is damned or ‘in’. I love your “treat” theory, because so often it really is.
      The America diet is every unhealthy which has a lot to do with the cost. If a cheap, unhealthy cheeseburger from a fast-fat store is cheaper than a small salad, guess what many have to choose?

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  3. My grandmother, who lived well into her 90’s, would say, “Everything in moderation.” I don’t want to judge anyone’s prayer. You are right about that voice in our head. We have to be aware of what we tell ourselves. I like fried chicken (Popeye’s – which Dan thinks is yucky), but I have found air fryer chicken with some seasonings is just as tasty to me. Sometimes baby steps are best.

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    • No, she is actually a neighbor who is trying to lose weight but (according to her) she is giving into temptation too much. It’s a fitness board for our area and surrounding subdivisions. This request was not the first one. Sometimes it’s chicken or donuts, it’s actually quite interesting to see how guilty people feel and how they controlled by their inner critic.

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